A victim mentality invents victim reality. I was at first inclined to use the word “manifests” instead of “invents”, which is accurate, but the thought that this word inspires is too intangible…too disconnected from physical reality. I also thought of the word “creates”, but creation is too much of a conscious act to encompass the unconscious way that victimization develops in a person’s life. The word “invention” applies to both ideas and physical creation, the word itself encompassing the journey of an idea from intangible thought to physical being. An invention is an idea brought into physical reality…its creation driven by the belief that there is an appropriate and justifiable place for it in your world. It is worthy of being real.
Very few people are aware that the perspective of being a victim is an invented idea…an idea created by their fear or introduced to them by another person who is inclined to view the world in a negative light. Once the idea that you are a victim has been accepted, your mind looks for evidence to prove that this perspective is true. Your mind then draws to it the people and experiences that will reinforce the idea, solidifying this perspective as part of your reality. As a result, you find yourself in the role of victim time and time again…of negative people and seemingly chance events, which then justifies and reinforces your victim mentality. When this is done unconsciously, you’re unaware that you are manifesting everything you are experiencing. You have no memory of having accepted the original victim perspective years ago, and therefore there is no understanding of why you are a victim of negative people and painful events in the present. You have no understanding that the only person you are a victim of is yourself, and that the only event you are a victim of is your own invention of a victim’s life experience.
Hopefully by now you are aware that this mentality perpetuates itself. And if you are unconscious of it, you will have no idea of how to escape it. You will continue to experience fear, and the only explanation you will have is to justify it with the experience that you believe brought it about. The fear and other negative emotions gets blamed on the “negative” person or event instead of being placed where it belongs, on your own lap. There are other perspectives just as valid and just as believable that will empower you instead of leaving you feeling as weak, alone, and helpless as being a victim does. You’ve got to own your experiences. You’ve got to understand that everything you experience in your life is a result of what you have accepted as true or what you have attracted to yourself with your beliefs about people and the world. Truth is individual. Your destiny is altered with every choice YOU make.
~ Michael Verdun
“Until a person can say deeply and honestly, “I am what I am, who I am, and where I am today because of the choices I made yesterday,” that person cannot say, “I choose otherwise.”
~ Stephen R. Covey